Yes, We are men but we're all different!

I don’t intend to give this a highly dramatic or a vague diluted start. Neither do I write this in self defence or out of cynicism or to feed my male ego and nor do I intend to portray that I’m a typical male chauvinist who is out here to screw allegations laid on us by the fairer sex, whenever we ‘poor men’ try to do or say something. I write this out in my senses being fully conscious when I call us men poor. A small incident that follows is what brought me to this conclusion. Many of you out there may think I’m stereotyping the fairer and the more intelligent sex, but trust me I don’t intend to objectify, generalize, demean, dilute their predicaments or condemn them in any way what so ever. This is purely based on what I witnessed in the recent few weeks when I came across a series of similar happenings in my life that has made me strong enough to write this out.

A week ago

It’s the beginning of one of my favorite month of the year! Yes, it’s December. YAY! December is special to me. I love winters. I love everything about winters; the weather, the cold, the chilly breeze, coffee, tea, other hot beverages, the clothes, the trees, the replenishing sun, the beautiful roads, the fog, the mist, the dew drops, blah-blah; everything! I don’t know why people don’t like winters! For me, it’s my favorite season! Anyways, back to business.

It was the 1^st of December and I was all geared up and excited at the advent of the month. What added more to the fervor and jubilation was the fact that I was going to meet my school pals i.e. my school sister and one of my most special friend! She was leaving for New Delhi for her internship in one of the prestigious hotels there.

I decided to take a bus to the “adda” we had finalized for meet up. The bus stop was a pretty casual one but busy with a lot of people busy waiting for their respective route bus to come and pick them up. Thanks to our Chandigarh bus service, we all knew we had a plenty of time on our hands before our buses arrived! It was early morning and the bread-earning crowd has evidently visible busy on their smartphones.

All of a sudden I hear a sudden thud! Some papers sprung up in air and a second later I hear everyone murmuring and hushing. I try to take a sneak peak at the ‘crime scene’ out of curiosity. A girl in high heels had stumbled down to the ground. Nothing that serious. A gentleman came forward to help her get back up on the feet. Seconds later as she regained her composure and all her documents, she stood in the queue. The guy, out of good will, inquired if she was alright.

“Don’t! I know guys like you! All you men are the same! Sab ladke ek jaise hote hai! Dogs, pervert and jerks!”

The man was taken aback! He froze as he couldn't absorb what had just transpired. He felt so ashamed, flabbergasted, guilty and angry; all at the same time. He said nothing and joined back the queue and waited for his bus to arrive and soon left the scene! The day passed and I finally met my friends and later in the day back came but the reminiscence of the morning didn't leave my sidewalk. 

I was a witness to this tragedy! I mean, how can one generalize everyone? Not everyone is the same, right? I too was astonished to see the turn of events. Isn't that what happens generally now a days? I’m not pointing fingers on the whole female fraternity (I dare not! :P) but there are a few women who have made up their mind that every guy, every male offspring is the same; a pervert! No! Yes, the darker sex hasn't been the best when it comes to behaving properly with the fairer one but that does not mean that you convict the whole genus of being a jerk or a pervert and in some worse cases, rapists! Just like you can’t judge a book by its cover, the same way you cannot reach to a conclusion about men too. If no one had inquired with her if she was fine, she would have notion-ed it this way, that how insensitive we men are that no one of us bothered to take a look if she was fine! Now that someone actually came forward, she didn't take a minute to snap out at him and call him a pervert. I mean seriously! We need to think it all over again. What are we doing to ourselves? Have we all lost that feeling of compassion and concern in us? Did he really do it with a bad intention? Stop generalizing, stop stereotyping! Not everyone who’s coming close to you wants to take advantage of you or to molest you or even worse, rape you! Everyone’s not the same! I mean, think about it, if that was the case, the whole character and integrity of your own dad and brother would be at a stake. Is he not a nice man? Is he too, a pervert? Not everyone is a pervert, right? Judge people on merit and their behavior and not with preconceptions and a narrow mindset! Stop calling men dogs (though we would have preferred wolfs! :P ). You won’t call your dad or your brother a dog! There are men who have proved to be a great father, a caring friend, a loving brother, a loyal lover, a midnight protector, a safe guard, a sound guide and I'm sure what not! Accept it. This is not how the world goes! You cannot blame the whole male genus for a sin done by a fraction of it. You cannot put the onus on the whole fraternity and ask them to carry it in their stride. You cannot put all of them into the circle of culpability. You cannot just walk around blaming, cursing and putting down all men for something unfortunate and unpleasant done by a few demons in the society. It's a kind request to both the sexes to be wise enough and not generalize or stereotype. Respect every individual. Even science researches have proved that every person is different from other. So be sensible, be rational! Make Peace, spread peace! Respect everyone because yes, we are men but we're all different! :)